One month ago, as a result of the combined effects of a daily habit of surfing the news in the early morning, and a wish to interact with a wider peer group, I submitted the following question to a LinkedIn Group called Organizational Change Practitioners which attracts a mixture of consultants and in-house HR/OD people from across the globe:
Is it Ok for those leading change to lie?
As a change consultant, I’m often supporting change leaders and their teams to share their ‘truth’ about what’s going on, and what needs attention. But the attached article The Good Side of Lying got me thinking about the business of lying, and how sometimes an imaginative lie can be useful…*
A CEO I was working with once announced to a large group of front line leaders that he was already seeing big shifts in their behaviour and was proud of them – although he admitted to me afterwards that he wasn’t seeing any such thing, but hoped that this would cause them to feel a little guilty about their lack of progress. This lie seemed to be quite effective! Your thoughts?
[* This last sentence has stimulated quite a bit of discussion for us internally regarding getting the balance right between putting an interesting, provocative question 'out there' and building a strong, solid reputation. Perhaps this question risks readers suspecting that we actively encourage lying (which we definitely don't!), and it might have been better to soften it a little.]
Resulting discussion
The discussion now stands at 189 comments, making it the third most popular discussion in this group, and catapulting me into their top five influencers of the week. (I’m trying to take this accolade lightly!)
Here are some of the highlights – with thanks to the contributors for their vitality and diversity.
(Perhaps you’d like to continue the discussion by entering a comment below? I’d love to hear your thoughts… Or you could join the original discussion on LinkedIn – by first registering on LinkedIn, if you haven’t done so already, and joining the Organizational Change Practitioners group.)
What happens if your employees realize that you are willing to lie to them? What happens with the trust you need in order to lead them effectively?
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NO!!! we are bound my moral and ethical standards. Just like all our parents taught us, no good comes from lying.
Motivation has many shapes and forms, and so if it motivates, at least at times that it is not hurting jobs, or saving jobs or money in the pockets of the big guys, it is harmless.
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To a leader, the only ethic which must be exhibited is —- WALK THE TALK !!!.Be clear and candid in your deeds and actions so that people looking at you builds up trust on you.
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As a leader you have to make difficult choices and tread difficult paths. He may have made that speech because he knows his staff and understands what motivates them; from Esther’s comments it seemed to do the trick. If the consequences of not giving the ‘motivational speech’ resulted in a failure of the change programme, (which, when extrapolated in this climate could result in redundancies, company failing etc), is his little white lie so bad?
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If one is willing to lie, what else are they willing to do. Authenticity, integrity, humility and trustworthiness are all eroded through lying.
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When I compare what the CEO did to cases I’ve witnessed (e.g., a celebrity founder of a non-profit repeatedly falsifying data in government and private foundation grant applications, a client informing me he would cancel my $1M contract if I didn’t write a position paper supporting his position which was not supported by data…. the CEO telling slacking employees that he’s seen improvement in their work ranks low on the scale.
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Absolutely not. Leading change requires both head and heart in order to drive the organization forward, particularly if you want to do it fast. If you cannot rapidly build trust, you will have significant issues driving change.
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The ceo is considering a merger that will considerably impact the values and culture but will ensure continuity of products and services. Are employees entitled to know? Even if the decision is not made yet? And when the decision is made, but negotiations ongoing?
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I feel that we should re-examine this question in a more nuanced way. Lying doesn’t work, as just about all have said strongly. But underneath is a question about openness. We may not lie, but do we always tell the WHOLE truth? Do we sometimes tell the truth in installments? Do we present the truth with some “spin” (and is it possible to do anything that is not spun – even if not intentionally?) …Potentially this is a very deep question about subjective truth, objective truth and people’s ability to handle / transition to the “new”.
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“Honesty is for the most part less profitable than dishonesty.” ~ Plato ~ Mystical Greek figure ~ philosopher, wrestler and slave.
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Such a missed opportunity by the leader. Rather than lie, why not tell them what he’s seeing, talk to his frustration, show some (managed) emotion, and start to ask the difficult questions that might actually lead to real and lasting results.
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What does it all mean?
The length and quality of the ensuing discussion has left me reflecting on a number of issues:
i) How sensitive we are to the subject of lying, and what extreme reactions it can provoke to accuse someone of lying, or to suggest that lying is a good thing – even though research suggests that we all routinely lie – or tell half-truths - to each other every day, for ‘good’ reasons such as sensitivity, self-protection, fear of the outcome etc.
ii) Maybe an ‘imaginative lie’ is a provocative way of referring to a ‘reframe’ or a ‘glass half full’ perspective, which begins to anticipate a better future, and can lift peoples’ heads beyond the day to day. Just telling people how it is won’t do this.
iii) How a leader’s ability to lead is delicately balanced on the amount of trust and respect that he or she engenders, and how the choice between bending the truth (or lying) and telling people something that might be unsettling or awkward is tricky. My sense is that this depends on how able the leader is to ‘contain’ the anxieties that the truth might provoke.
iv) Perhaps the other change practitioners in this network – like me – are particularly interested in how to continue to support leaders to name the truth of a situation when it’s required, because my experience is that surfacing this, though painful at times, often leads rather wonderfully to healthy, and very rapid change.
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